The Value of Delays
Discovering the treasure chest of wisdom that seasons of delay contain.
While the journey to destiny can be long and difficult, the journey is also exciting and fulfilling. Last night I received a message from an influencer that really touched my heart. I was so honored to know that my life and work is impacting this individual. Those are the moments that I live for. I have won many awards and received many honors over the years. However, none of that can compare to the personal testimonials of lives touched and transformed by my life and work. Many of you see my success but not many people truly know my story. This journey has been a difficult one and I have experienced so many delays. We buy into the dream but we are often blinded to the development that it necessary for that dream to manifest. How do you handle the delays? What do you do with the long wait? I want to share some of the lessons I have learned about remaining dedicated despite the delays to destiny.
- You must have a vision much larger than yourself. If you have read my autobiography, then you know I write in great detail about the power of vision. More importantly, my autobiography talks about how my vision sustained me in some of the darkest moments of my life. I am grateful to live a life that impacts people all over the world. However, I have experienced great failure on this journey to success. My business almost collapsed on three different occasions. Also, at one point I had to close my business for a period of time. For every victory I can tell you another story of crushing defeat. People often ask me how I was able to keep going despite so much pain and disappointment. Honestly, the only reason I made it through those seasons is because I had a vision much larger than myself. I could not give up because the vision was not about me. It was about the lives that were being impacted and touched by my work. Ultimately, I could not give up because God did not give me permission to give up. I’m so glad that I kept going because I would not be where I am today.
- You must surround yourself with a circle of champions. The wrong people will destroy your life. I can tell you a few things about relationships. Some of my deepest pain has come from trusting the wrong people. Immaturity and ignorance will always produce pain in your life. As you mature, you realize that you have to be selective about who you give space to in your life. Thankfully, I now have an incredible inner circle of individuals that genuinely love me and want the best for me. When I felt like giving up, my inner circle challenged me and pushed me to keep going. My inner circle believed in me and they refused to allow me to accept defeat. I was weary, fatigued and tired but my circle of champions continued to push me to greatness. You need people around you that see your potential and help pull the best out of you. Stop surrounding yourself with yes people and create an inner circle that can discern your significance. Right relationships always raise the value of your life.
- Commit to doing the work. I am always amazed when people ask me why they are not successful yet. While many factors contribute to your success, the honest answer is that most people are not successful yet because they are not ready. We think because we read a few motivational quotes and feel inspired that we are ready to be successful. However, I can assure you from experience that you do not succeed because you read inspirational quotes or attend motivational seminars. You succeed because you are willing to do the work that it takes to be successful. Nobody sees the long hours that I have put into perfecting my craft. Nobody sees the hundreds of books that I have read. People have no clue how many courses I have taken, mentoring moments I have seized and days I have given to being the best in the world at what I do. Many people look at my life and think success is easy. However, I make success look easy because I have done my work. I want you to understand that there are no shortcuts to success. You must be willing to do the work if you want to live a world-class life. Your willingness to develop uncommon disciplines empower you to live an uncommon life.
- Learn how to appreciate the journey. So many times we are so concerned with the destination that we forget to enjoy the journey. I can relate to that feeling all too well. In the early years, I found myself frustrated and on the brink of giving up. I wanted to succeed fast but I was failing fast. Truthfully, failure does not feel good and we live in a world that has programmed us to avoid pain. What I have discovered is that you cannot grow without failure. More importantly, the only way to live a safe life is to never try. Safety does not produce a life of significance. Courage will distinguish you in the world and produce a life of success. When you are becoming anxious about the journey, I want you to stop and appreciate where you are in your life. Think about how far you have come, how much you have learned and how blessed you are to be where you are. Anxiety will subside and appreciation will fill your soul. Delayed does not mean denied. Ultimately, delay is a tool that develops us for greatness.