Redefine the Way You Look at Failure
So many people in the world today are stuck. They want to live their dreams. However, they continue to be derailed by disappointments, distractions, frustrations and failures. So many experts have opinions about success. While I am not saying that they are wrong, a lot of the information being presented today is theoretical. It has no real-world application or validity. Honestly, the journey to success is much more of a zigzag than a straight line. Everything in your life will not go according to plan. Nor should you expect everything to be perfect. One of the great things about the journey to success is learning to appreciate the process. Also, you have to learn how to make the adjustments that will lead to progress and results in your life. One of the greatest lessons I ever learned was to never allow failure to define your life.
- Lose the misconceptions that you have about success. Stop believing the lie that success is automatic. My success story has taken over thirty years to come together. My business was in bad shape. In fact, the business almost collapsed on three different occasions. I had pressure coming at me from every direction. People were critical and I do not believe anybody truly expected the business to make it. However, I refused to allow the critics and the naysayers to tell me what was possible for my life. Instead, I continued to persevere and I came to the other side with the victory in my life and business. You will always be frustrated if you try to limit success to a formula. Success is not a formula. Success is a fight and you must be willing to fight for it daily.
- Let go of the victim mentality. When it comes to success, I am amused at the various schools of thought. We live in a culture that has vilified the rich and subscribed to a philosophy of entitlement. Money is not evil. In fact, I often say that money simply takes on the personality of the person that has it. Wealth and abundance have become bad words in the twenty first century. The reality is that you need money to live. I’ve discovered over the years that we all have different financial goals and financial needs. The comfort of your life is directly related to how much wealth you have. One of the reasons that many people do not prosper in the world today is because they have a misconception about money. Victims look for handouts. On the other hand, successful people know the power of hard work and commitment to experience a greater life. It is important to let go of the victim mentality because it will always stand in the way of a life of success and prosperity. Your attitude about wealth will attract or repel wealth in your life.
- Live your disciplines consistently. I’ve discovered over the years that you will either live in your disappointments or your disciplines. I’ve experienced a lot of failure in my life. Therefore, I found it very easy to live in my disappointments. I rehearsed them and replayed them until they produced seeds of resentment on the inside of me. I rehearsed my disappointments so much that I started to relive them. Often times it is the things that we continue to rewind that keep us from accessing the next realm in life. You cannot undo the past. However, you have the power to write a new story for your life. Stop giving your energy to disappointments. You must start living your disciplines consistently. Disciplines set the course to achieving your goals and living your dreams. Do not allow your failures to make you forfeit an incredible future. Daily develop the habits and disciplines that will empower you to live from a higher dimension.
- Learn how to celebrate small victories in your life. Truthfully, this was a difficult concept for me in my life. I have always been a perfectionist and that has often been my greatest challenge. My mind is very focused on the big picture. In fact, I form a picture in my imagination, determine the steps and formulate the strategies to make it a reality. The problem is that I have focused so much on the destination that I never stopped to celebrate the small victories in my life. When you do not celebrate the small victories it breeds frustration and weariness on the inside of you. Ultimately, great things take time and this is a lesson I had to learn. Some goals you accomplish quickly and others take a lifetime to achieve. It is important to step back, appreciate the journey and celebrate all the small victories along the way. Celebrating the small victories will energize you and empower you to endure so you can embrace your greatest life. Do not delay all of your joy for the future and lose the ability to appreciate the gift of today.